Making your own money – and by that I mean, not from a typical 9 to 5, but from something you created and you own – is like a drug. Once you’ve had even the littlest taste of it, you’ll always want it again. Be careful what you wish for when you wish to be your own boss. You might get hooked for life.

I say be careful because it’s not an easy path. It’s a #@$&! scary ride. But… it’s a ride that changes you for the better. You learn to become bigger than yourself, if that makes any sense. You learn to use your strengths and your weaknesses to your advantage. As master of your own work domain, you have to know yourself well and still continually try to outsmart yourself, to outdo your last move. That’s innovation. That’s growth. That’s ultimately sustainability. Because if you’re always thinking about where you’ll get your next entrepreneurial fix; if you’re constantly asking yourself, ‘what next?’ you’ll have an answer when someone else comes asking the same thing of you.

In business, that ‘someone else’ is your customers, your employees, your partners, your teachers and mentors. When those people come asking, ‘what next?’ you’d better have an answer. If you don’t, you’ll be cheating yourself and them. Or worse…. you’ll become stagnant, and ultimately irrelevant.

“What next?” is a question that I’ve been continually pondering for the last few months. I’ve been an independent freelancer for almost a year now, and have had plenty of ups and downs, direction changes and lots of opportunities to test different approaches in marketing, selling and delivering my services. I finally feel like I’ve reached a level of comfort with the ambiguity and the sometimes unpredictable nature of self-employment, and I’m preparing to kick off some new projects and partnerships that will continue to propel me down paths I want to travel. I recently shared one of those projects with you, and I’m looking forward to sharing the others as they progress.

In the meantime, I’d like to pass along some highlights from a blog post entitled ‘How to Overcome Stagnation’ by Dean L. Forbes. Work – whether done for yourself or for someone else – is one of those areas that it’s extremely easy to become stagnant in, and Dean has provided some excellent insights for recognizing the symptoms of stagnation and developing strategies to deal with it.

Symptoms of Stagnation:

• Lack of focus – feeling scattered and unsure of the goals you’ve set
• Indecisiveness – unable to make a decision because every option is too risky and/or impossible
• Doubt – feelings of self-doubt, lack of confidence in your skills and abilities
• Hopelessness – inability to see the silver lining, the upside, the light at the end of the tunnel
• Cynicism –feeling like the cards are stacked against you, that everyone (especially the ones who ‘don’t deserve it’) is getting ahead except you
• Depression – lack of energy or will to do anything positive, productive, or progressive

Like any emotional or mental state, stagnation is temporary. The amount of time spent in a state of stagnation depends on your willingness to take the right actions to move beyond that state. Forbes recommends the following right actions to overcome stagnation.

5 Ways to Overcome Stagnation:

1. Re-evaluate your core values – Make sure that the principles you wish to live by – your own personal definition of ‘the good life’ – are intact. Make a list of the things in life that really matter to you and be sure that your daily activities and decisions reflect that.
2. Redefine your mission – What is your purpose? What are you here for? What do you feel that you were uniquely created to do? You may already have an idea in your head. Take some time to reflect on and re-envision this mission.
3. Change your mission – Does the mission you previously envisioned for yourself no longer make sense? Maybe it’s time to find a new mission.
4. Change your circle – If you’re on a journey to somewhere, your travelling companions can make or break the trip for you. It can be difficult to change or sever associations, but if you find out that people in your circle aren’t interested in going where you’re headed, you’ll all be much better off going your separate ways.
5. Take a different route – There’s more than one way to reach a given goal. Maybe the path you’re on isn’t the one that’s going to work for you. There’s no shame in changing directions or scrapping what you thought was a well-planned route. What matters is that you keep moving towards your ultimate destination.

If you’re looking for more help dealing with stagnation, here are a few of my favorite stagnation-killing books:

Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

Pigs Eat Wolves by Charles Bates

photo by: Crystl

cheers,
k

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I have fond memories of summer from childhood. Long days of building forts, scraping up cash for the candy lady, playing kickball, jumping on trampolines, going on four-wheeler adventures in the woods…. Back then, that was serious business to me.

These days, though, it’s all about trying to balance the competing demands of life (read: a hectic social calendar) and work (read: the ups/downs of freelancing). But the good thing is, when you find the right people to collaborate with, serious business can still seem like play.

My latest collaboration is one that I’m especially excited about. I’ve partnered with my longtime friend Edwina Cleveland on an event staffing company called After the Affair. Edwina originally launched After the Affair late last year, and has gotten outstanding response from her clients.

After the Affair’s service was created specifically for two groups of people:

Event professionals (i.e. caterers, event planners, event venues, etc.) who occasionally need helping hands to execute an event, but don’t want the cost and hassle of a full time staff

and

Home entertainers who’d rather enjoy their parties than spend the whole time working them.

Edwina and I are familiar with both sides of the event planning coin – she was a caterer in a former life, and we’re both serious home entertainers who make mini-productions out of birthday parties and dinner gatherings. We know that having the right staff to execute the vision can be the most critical piece of the event planning puzzle. With After the Affair, we wanted to make the job of finding well-trained temporary event staff easier for the people who are likely to need them most.

We’ve assembled a solid roster of highly-experienced, on-call staff that can perform a variety of roles at a special event. We’ve hand-picked some of the best bartenders, wait staff, kitchen help, and setup and breakdown crews around, and we’re eager to keep them busy throughout the summer months.

Right now, we’re putting the finishing touches on our new website, but you can check out the almost-there version at: www.hireeventstaff.com.

I’ll be handling the ‘Atlanta division’ (as we like to call it) of After the Affair, while Edwina focuses on the Macon and central Georgia area.

Friends of After the Affair should receive an email containing a special limited-time offer inside very shortly. If you’d like to be included on this list in the future, sign up here. You’ll receive discounts on standard staffing rates, party recipes, and tips from industry professionals on entertaining and event planning.

Here’s to the start of new summer adventures!

photo by kelvin255

cheers,
k

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Wrong. If you’re focused and willing to put forth a little extra effort, there’s a way for you to make it happen. While there’s no guaranteed path to success, here are 8 steps that will undoubtedly help you transform your part-time hobby into a full-time career.

1. Educate Yourself – Either enroll in a paid course or do some targeted self-study. Buy books and read articles in industry publications. You need to get very smart about the history, and current and future trends of the work you want to do. Is there a viable market for what you want to do? Also, get a feel for what goes on behind-the-scenes of the craft – those things that you’ll have to do that aren’t necessarily related to the craft itself. For instance, if you want to be a writer, you need to learn how to write pitch letters. If you want to be a musician, you might need to learn about putting together a press kit or music copyright law. Find out what average salaries or pay rates are in the field. This step alone may make you second guess your decision to pursue your craft as a full-time career.

 

2. Carve Out a Niche – How do you do your work differently? Are your products and services for a certain type of person or audience? What can you do with your work that’s totally unique? Develop your own persona, your own set of offerings that’s just a little bit different than what’s already out there.

 

3. Build a Resume – Whether you want to work your craft as an employee or as a business owner, you’ll need to show that you’re experienced. Early on you may not have a lot to put on a resume, so seek out volunteer or non-paying opportunities that will give you that experience. Look at previous jobs that may have required you to use the same skills, even though you might not have had the exact title. If you have the time and energy, consider moonlighting or taking some one-off projects or a part-time gig in the field you’re looking to break into.

 

4. Join a Flock – Seek out a trade association, industry organization, or just a network of people who are doing the same work. Be active, ask a lot of questions, let people know that you’re trying to break in to the industry, ask for ways you can lend your talents to the group, offer to take people out to coffee, to collaborate with them on their next project. Above all, be genuine with this group. They’ll be like your new family.

 

5. Tell Everyone – Tell everyone you know – friends, family, former co-workers, the guy who makes your coffee at the corner café – about your ‘new’ line of work. This is for two reasons: 1) so you get comfortable claiming your new career, and 2) so people you know start seeing you as this person. Ideally, you should get some self-promotion tools in place – business cards, a website or blog – so you can showcase your talent to the world.

 

6. Define Your Prey – Clearly define who your target customer is or what type of organization you want to work for. How far are you willing to travel? How many hours do you want to work? What types of people do you want to work with? What kind of salary are you willing to accept? Get clear about what it is you’re actually looking for, and then…

 

7. Go Hunting – Talk to contacts in your network that can introduce you to your target clients. Hang out in places where your clients hang out (be sure to bring your self-promotion items with you), meet people and follow up with them, even if it’s just for personal reasons. This step is about building the relationships that will get you closer to your ideal client or type of work.

 

8. Be Patient Persistent – If you’re lucky, you may achieve success overnight. If you’re patient, you’ll wait as long as it takes for success to come to you. But if you’re persistent, you’ll realize that it takes both time and consistent effort for you to reach a desired level of success, and you’ll continue to do the work required to meet your goals.

Have any other tips for how to make your part-time passion your full-time career? Drop ‘em in the comments.

photo credit: Tony the Misfit

cheers,
k

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“The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his information and his recreation, his love and his religion.

He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he’s always doing both.”

-James A. Michener

I’ve been writing this blog for about a year and a half now. For those of you who’ve been reading for a while, you know that I mainly rant and ramble about: food, music, culture, and occasionally, society and spirituality. In a word – life. Or the ‘good life’, as I define it.

It’s occurred to me, though, that there’s one pretty big chunk of life in general and my life in particular that never  gets touched on this blog.

Work.

Well, I shouldn’t say never. One of the more popular posts I’ve written was one in which I counted down the days before I left my last job. I thought it would be fun to share the idiosyncracies of my daily work life, since  that we all know and hate.

Apparently, I hit a nerve. Something about that clearly resonated with every one of you, because I never got so many comments on your own experiences (and frustrations) with work and the workplace. Case in point: 

I am so envious of you!!!! I’ve been looking for a new job for 8 months now — and it is a slow and painful process. I feel trapped in hell. I can’t wait for the day when I can quit.

I’m jealous. My job is sucking the life right out of me and I can’t seem to find anything else at the moment. It might better if I go on commission; I might double what I’m currently making. However, money isn’t everything, and if I could find a job that I love doing I’d take it even if it doesn’t pay much.

I’m quitting my job for a better Federal job between now and springtime, and I’m only giving these fools three days notice. When they lay people off (company terminology is surplus), the lay-off list comes out on Wednesday to let people know they will be out of a job on Friday. So when I do that, and they beef, I’ll tell them I’m just following company policy.

I am sooo happy 4 u! I needed that motivation as I am still on the plantat…. I mean the same dead end job….

Most of us spend more hours of every day working than doing anything else – including sleeping – but it seems to be the one part of our lives that we get the least amount of satisfaction or enjoyment out of. It seems that work – or at least the way we are used to experiencing work -presents the largest barrier to our ability to live the ’good life’. Work is either not providing the financial benefit that we need to acquire material comforts, or it’s not providing the emotional or mental satisfaction that we need to feel fulfilled.

If we could make our work – whether it’s working for ourselves or for someone else – as enjoyable as our play, wouldn’t our lives be so much more…good? It’s a question I’m interested in answering, because I think I’m not the only one who could benefit from knowing how to make that possible.

I’ve decided to add a new category to the blog for all things ‘work’. In this category, you can expect to see commentary, books, articles, links, and my own personal opinions on how to make work more fulfilling, productive, rewarding, and fun. Hopefully, we’ll all learn a little from it, and move that much closer to integrating our work with the rest of our lives.

Before I go, I’d like to pose a question as my first act of research.

Are there any of you out there that truly enjoy your work? And it doesn’t count if you say, ”I  like my work, but, or with the exception of….”

I want to hear from people who can say that they enjoy and are fulfilled by what they do for a living.

For those of you who can’t say that wholheheartedly:

What is it about your current work situation that is less than ideal? Is it the environment, the people, the pay, the commute, the crappy coffee in the breakroom?

Inquiring minds….

happy monday,

k

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• 2 weeks notice

Imagine this. You arrive at a bustling, networking event and casually walk into the center of the very large, very crowded room. All around you, groups of varying sizes are engaged in lively conversation. From where you stand, you can catch snippets of every discussion, and a little smidgen of what each person is saying. That guy over in the corner is the promoter for that hot new nightclub downtown, and he’s offering all of his group free admission this Friday. The young lady a few feet away from him is happily sharing small business marketing advice and is giving a referral to a friend of hers who provides half-off discounts to the best restaurants in the city. The guy standing next to her isn’t saying as much as everyone else, but when he does, it’s the wittiest / funniest thing you’ve ever heard! And the woman on the far side of the room looks like Erykah Badu. No, wait…she IS Erykah Badu! As you stand there and listen some more, hundreds of other useful tidbits buzz by your ears. It’s hard to keep up with them all and you’re worried that you’ll never have enough time to meet and connect with all of the cool, funny, interesting, and helpful people in front of you. Plus, you’ve got valuable information and witty repartee of your own to share… but how are you ever going to be able to engage with everyone?

Just then, Rod Serling magically appears at your side, and says, “There is a fifth dimension beyond that which is known to man. It is a dimension as vast as space and as timeless as infinity. It is the middle ground between light and shadow, between science and superstition, and it lies between the pit of man’s fears and the summit of his knowledge. This is the dimension of imagination. It is an area which we call ‘The Twitter Zone’. ”

Suddenly, the room goes dead silent. Everything begins moving in slow motion. When the next person opens their mouth to speak, you see their words appear written in a little bubble over their head with a time and date stamp on the end of it. You – and everyone else in the room – can go around and literally cherry-pick out of the air those bits of conversation that are interesting to you and put them in your book of acquaintances. Every time you open your book, you’ll have a growing history of everything those people said since you picked them. Those you don’t pick, won’t show up in the book. And because of the time / date stamp, you can see how long ago the words were said. Likewise, anyone who’s put your name in their book, will be able to see everything you’ve said. “Wow” you think to yourself, “This is pretty friggin’ amazing!” “No,” says Rod Serling, “This. Is Twitter.”

Ok. So maybe that was way more dramatic and illustrative than it needed to be, but I’ve had countless people over the past few months ask me, “What the hell is this Twitter?”, so I’ve had a lot of time to come up with a suitably descriptive analogy.

Like most people, when I first signed on to Twitter (a little more than a year ago) – I just didn’t get it. At that point, my social networking tool of choice was Myspace, mainly because I liked interacting with people that I knew in real life or had some other close connection with (e.g., people who loved to cook or write). Over time, the sleaze-factor on MySpace became too much, so I migrated to Facebook. Still, I was interacting almost exclusively with people I knew. But at that time, I was also starting to build this blog, where I was writing about various events, restaurants, artists, and just random points of interest that floated into my head. I began to notice that some of the other blogs that I read were also using Twitter, so I decided to give it another go. I posted a few tweets about upcoming events and some of those random points of interest. I posted a few more tweets pointing people to new blog posts. I did a search for people who were tweeting about similar things – Atlanta, food, music, art, spirituality – and began following their tweets. Soon, I had a whole cadre of strangers that I was, in effect, listening in on. I was getting info on upcoming performances, discounts to events and attractions, bits of info on the web, and all manner of humorous observations. Of course, there were several people who I eventually purged from my ‘book of acquaintances’ because they rarely said anything of interest or import. But those people could still listen in on to whatever I had to say, if they wanted to. For a while, I was so enamored with the new tool, I completely neglected my Facebook account. But now, I use them both equally. On Facebook, I connect on a more intimate level with people I know but may not see very often. While on Twitter, I connect with people that I may never, ever see but who regularly provide info I want to know or vice-versa. Of course, there’s some overlap as more people I know get engaged with Twitter, but that’s a pretty decent distinction.

Still not sure if Twitter is for you? Mmm-kay, pumpkin. Let’s break it down:

You might wanna use Twitter if:

• You can express yourself in less than 140 characters
• You have interesting, relevant, or otherwise helpful information to share with others (strangers and friends)
• You own a business, and are looking for a free way to tell people about it, or to engage with specific audiences
• You’re an expert in some specific area
• You really enjoy text messaging
• You’re an exhibitionist
• You’re a voyeur
• You talk to yourself, cuz there is no one to talk to…people ask you why, why you do what you doooooo….

Here are some of the people I follow on Twitter and why:

• badbanana – Intelligent bits of humor like this:
  • “These poor people in flood-ravaged North Dakota. Kanye West says it’s because Obama hates white people.”
• MeLikeGoodMusic – Alwasys shares good tunes (new, old, and unknown) like:
  •  ”Underrated Music – Midnight Juggernauts “Shadows” – http://tinyurl.com/dh9f6u“
• AtlIntownPaper – endless info on not-your-everyday events like:  
  • “High Museum will offer half-price tix 4/2 from 4-8pm courtesy of GE, sponsor of the Terracotta Army exhibit. http://tinyurl.com/2pk3tp“
• Kwanza Hall - Atlanta city councilman that shares firsthand news about the city like:
  • “AJC wants to know if I think the Peachtree Pine Shelter is a good thing or would I rather see it closed?”

 What I tweet about:

• Witty observations about my daily life (esp. anything that happens on MARTA)
• Events I saw or heard about that are happening or that I’m personally attending within the next 1-48 hours
• New blog posts that I write here
• Re-tweeting (i.e., forwarding) interesting or informative things someone else tweeted to me

Like any other social networking tool, there a loads of  people on Twitter that are either 1. overly addicted to it (I’m a recovering addict mahself), or 2. sharing a wee-bit too much (I really don’t need to know what your burps taste like, thank you). It’s up to you who you engage with and how you engage with others, so Twitter – like everything else in life – is really what you make it.

Case in point:
The Truth About Twitter

 
cheers,

k
Ksolo22 on Twitter

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